Domestic Abuse Overview and Helpline Numbers

Domestic Abuse Overview and Helpline Numbers

 

 

It’s sometimes hard to know what goes on behind closed doors, as is often the case when it comes to domestic abuse.

 

However, recent storylines in Coronation Street are helping to bring these sorts of subjects into the open. Domestic abuse is featuring in a storyline on this popular soap at the moment and sees male character Tyrone suffering domestic abuse at the hands of his female partner. The storyline not only highlights how domestic abuse can happen and how it is often hidden, but also that anyone can be subjected to it in their lifetime, no matter what their age, gender, race or sexuality.

 

An abusive person often uses some of the examples below to gain power and control over their victim:

 

  • Physical violence – punches, kicks, bites, scratches, pushing and strangulation
  • Emotional abuse – name calling, put downs, mind games, isolation from friends and family
  • Sexual abuse – rape, forced activities with others, images and videos taken
  • Financial abuse – withholding money, taking wages away, not allowing access to benefits

Domestic abuse is when these types of things happen between two adults who are, or have been, in an intimate relationship, including couples in a same sex relationship. It can also be between adult family members too.

 

Some people might say ‘Why don’t people just leave?’

 

There are many reasons why a person does not leave an abusive relationship. It is important to understand that:

 

  • They may still love and care about their partner. Some people want the relationship to continue but the abuse to stop.
  • They may feel ashamed and believe it is their fault.
  • They may be worried about what the future holds:
    • Where will they live?
    • What they will do for money?
    • Whether they will have to hide forever
    • Whether they will be found
    • They may not know where to go for help.
    • As a result of the abuse they may not have enough self-confidence and self-esteem to make any decisions.
    • They may believe it is better to stay in the relationship for the sake of the children.
    • They may have become isolated from friends and family and have no way of asking for help.
    • They may not have any money.

 

If you are suffering then you need to know that:

 

  • It is NOT your fault that this is happening
  • There is ALWAYs someone who can help you. You can call a helpline, such as Shropshire Domestic Abuse helpline (number below) at any time.
  • You will be listened to and given advice. You will not be made to do anything you don’t want to. Maybe you just need to talk at first.
  • You MUST dial 999 in an emergency, don’t leave it to chance.

 

If you want to help someone you know then take note of the following:

 

  • Listen without interrupting and try not to give an opinion.
  • Don’t try and take control of the situation, ask them what they want to do.
  • Understand, if they decide that this is not the time for them to do anything. When they feel strong enough, they will.
  • Try not to become frustrated if they leave the relationship and go back soon after. Research has shown that on average it takes a victim seven attempts to leave an abusive relationship.
  • If there is repeated violence, call Crimestoppers and share any information you know about the abuse on 0800 555 111, or local Police on 101.
  • Call 999 if you hear cries for help, or shouts and screams.

 

Useful contacts

 

  • Shropshire Domestic Abuse 24 hour helpline (free to call from a landline)
    0800 783 1359
  • Mankind (support for men experiencing abuse)
    01823 334 244
  • Broken Rainbow (advice for gay men and women, bi-sexual and transgender people)
    0845 2604460